I am a woman...we all have relationship crisis/crises(more than one).
We go to our bestest friends.Friends who have nothing out of it, as in they don't benefit from any particular outcome.So,they give neutral third person opinion.
Because i am a woman, this time around, I went to male male best friends to find out the male perspective on this particular issue..
Two male best friends and yet , Almost exact similar advice..
Sigh..Yet..I don't learn..coz my gut instinct asks me to get anxiety related arrhythmia by indulging in dangerous pursuits.So,I continue on, in spite of the advice they gave.
Nevertheless,here are nuggets of their advice>Just as a record for posterity..
Their names and real details of the whole issue have been withheld for the privacy of all parties involved.
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BEST FRIEND 1 ADVICES
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"ya, you must've missed that memo, all guys are dogs" again,thanks for saying that.I didn't know ALL were.they are?
Me:BLAH
Best friend advice:"..dogs that chase after any tail they see!"
okaaay.I didn't know it was so grim.But really?I guess!
Me:BLAH
Best friend advice:"....and he would've moved onto the next tail he saw walk past"
Again,thanks! I guess he would have!
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"...one last time GET OVER IT.you're not perfect, you made a mistake!"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)Best friend advice:"...learn, move on.forget he even exists!"Okie, dokie,shall try!
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"..no, you've finally learned something that most learn at 18-22.catching up!"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"..he wasn't in love with you.he was reaching.trying to see what he could get.just drop it, move on, learn from your mistakes."
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"..get over that feeling.pride comes before the fall."
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"..you now see the need for that attachment.never before have you seen that need.cause he couldn't get you.he wanted you only on his conditions"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"he might not have actually quit those things"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"best case scenario he falls in love with you, you fall in love with him, story over.worst case, you get there, he dumps you within two weeks"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"no need to waste more brain functions on him"
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
Best friend advice:"keep striving for perfection.he wasn't perfection"
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BEST FRIEND 2 ADVICES
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:what sort of drama? guy drama?
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES: So now he'll have no girlfriends
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:lol no, but it happens allllllll the time.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:why? there's nothing wrong with the story
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:it sounds like any normal drama story
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:lots of douche bag guys out there.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:welcome to most men!
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:'Most' doesn't mean all
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:It's true though. Lots of men I know are jackasses.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:I don't approve of most guys my friends date
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:I'm not saying women aren't guilty of the same behavior. I think it's becoming common in today's society
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:People are programmed to climb the ladder in their careers and in their life. Always upgrading, always looking for more.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:sometimes a mess is worth cleaning up. Kinda like a run down house that needs a good renovation.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:I can tell that relationship won't go very well.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:yeah, I prefer to avoid other people's messes and clean up my own if I make a spill.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:when people get too greedy, they lose everything.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:sometimes it takes two hands to catch a falling/shooting star, and if you're busy catching one with another
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:hand, you'll drop them both.
Me:BLAH BLAH BLAH (EXPLAINING SITUATION)
BMF ADVICES:well, it's stuff you already know., I just put it into words for you
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Written by Dr.A aka Lecinqblog