He is not you ,nobody is you, you are you ,and just you are are you !

I sometimes look at other people and muse. Very few people remind me of me.This person for the longest time looked like a mirror image of me.Every lil action reminded me of me.
You know what, finally, i realized that he is not me.
He will never be me.
Nobody is like anybody else.
So, yeah, I must stop sweating it , wanting to 'help' him out by preventing him from doing the exact same things that i did at one point of time and ofcourse those things turned out to be things not worth it.
Everyone has a right to go ahead and do their own mistakes(if at all they are mistakes for them in their lives) and learn from them.
I am myself, they are themselves, and no matter how much the similarity or apparent similarity ("apparent" being very key here) in personality, everybody's situation is so different .Therefore, the plans that i acted upon when i was 21-26, the one that prolly didn't work out for me, but if he at 31 is doing the same thing or apparently what looks like the same thing to me , it is his ballgame.

Do i know what he did from 21-26? no..Maybe he did completely different things and learned different lessons from them and now those lessons have guided him to behave this way at 31, this way, which i imagine is the exact same way i behaved when i was 21...Ya know..It is all confusiing and very relative.
Maybe he is not like me at all.
Maybe what he is doing is not like what i am doing or did, at all.
Maybe he is like me and he is doing the exact same 'mistake' i did, but then, his situation might be so different that the mistake might actually work for him.
No two people are really ever the same.

Even if they are the same, and even if this guy is the exact same as me, I need to stop being the mentor.NO one needs a mentor.Everyone is their own mentor.

Every adult is perfectly capable of taking care of themselves and they must take care of themselves adequately too.

If they don't take care of themselves that is, they learn lessons, valuable or invaluable depending on whether they prevent the lessons from being needed to be reemphasized over and over again.

It suddenly dawned on me , after a couple of years of thinking that this person is like me ..eventually, that no one is like anyone else.

Maybe it is just that i like him so much that i got carried away thinking or wanting to believe that he is like me.AFter all , each of us wants to associate ourselves with what seemingly looks like a great story to be part of.LOL

Maybe i am a great story on my own. Why look for other people and other people's stories to be part of.

One could just learn from a story by being a mere spectator .one doesn't need to be a part of it.

I don't need to associate with people whom i only get to see from far and imagine they are like me.

Most likely they are not like me..
It is only that i want them to be like me or imagine them to be like me, especially since i like this person very much.

Btw,it takes close interaction, one or one , to actually know about another person .


Why exactly am i rambling like an idiot?
Well, i just got blessed with a revelation to my semi delusional mind(this is not any pathological delusion or anything, but most of us , believe it or not, try to ease ourselves through life with the help of small and big delusions) that i am on my own in this world and so is everyone else.

I better stop imagining myself as this guardian angel of this other person, coz , well ! I am not.No one is.hmmmmm

So, yeah, this person is not like me, prolly never was, never will be.I need to stop fretting over this person coz i barely know them.

There is still tons of ramble left in me.But that is for another time, for another blog entry.Coz right now, i just have to go.

I am just going to let go of this image of this person in my head, \coz, that is all it is, an image.

I need to stop wasting my precious energies on trying to connect with people i barely know.I better let go, all for my own good.