I am going to stand back and watch-no place for doled out kindness in love !

It is just not warranted for me to get desperate in trying to not allow someone else to make the same kind of mistakes i once did.
It baffles me how the life incidences in this person's life are happenning in the exact sequence and exact manner that i experienced when I was 21.I wonder what happenned to him when he was 21..Well, I am 29 and hopefully wiser for long.
He is 30 , and now , And now,,he goes through the same damn things i went through, does the same things the same way i did , and this includes mistakes as well as the rights...We are doing the same right things and the same wrong things..And this sucks ..LOL
Now..At this juncture..what must i do?
I did tell him at the outset that i didn't want him to do what i did, which i suspected he would end up doing coz i thought or perhaps still think he is like me.
Now he is at the next exact juncture like i was so many years ago., and instead of walking away after having made the right decision, I went back out of kindness.The kindness ,which on retrospect ,was not needed, given the fact that the recepient of this kindness saw my coming back to them as some kind of limitation of mine, something that i personally had out of it.They perhaps thought, come on, She never came back she was just too kind , She just came back coz she had something that she got out it.
I think worthless losers tell that to themselves.They tell themselves all things of denial which makes their lives a lil bit more bearable to them.
Anways !
You see, people who are down and out there ,are so completely messed up, due to repeated disrespect, that they start suspecting anyone who might offer them kindness for nothing back.
Since then i have learned that ,no matter how much of an urge I might have to just dole out kindness and expect nothing in return, it still matters how the receipient of that kindness views it.If this unconditional kindness is viewed as some kind of major obligation i had coz of which i acted kind, It is like a slap in the face.Ya know.You feel it was better had i let it all go and never had shown any kindness.
Anyways..I feel , He is going to do the same stupid mistake i did way back.Go and call back someone who never worked out in the first place..All just out of kindness.Seriously..Not worth it..Not worth it.
I realized that there is no place for kindness in real love.Real love is sharing .Not kindness.
hmmm
So yeah.I am tired of trying real hard to prevent others from making the same mistake as me.I just have to let him make that mistake if he has to..but, it saddens me that it will be filled with regret if he does do that mistake.
Gosh..what a predicament..
So, for now, all i can do is stand back and watch.
No more frantic latters saying how much he must think before making a move and never make decisions in romance out of pure kindness..Kindness figures in charity, not in love.Kindness with no love makes the romance equation senseless and meaningless and tasteless too..
If you are reading this, sweetie, don't do it.Let it go..let it go...Something better is on the way.Trust me..It is !...Just let this go .It isn't right for you now, it never will grow into anything right or better over time.It just will be the same old incompatible thing even if there is tons of kindness involved.Trust me .